Watching you Read – An erotic love Poem


Watching you Read –

Eyes downcast.


Hardbound book in hand,

fingers lay splayed around its spine

caressing it with a familiar grip.

An upward curl of your  lips,

as baby blues dilate


to drink in the words upon the page.

What adventure do you ride into?

What romance causes the rush I

see to come to pale pink cheeks?

Does the beat of your heart quicken, as

the rising action lifts your senses to the edge,

only to send you cascading off a cliff?

You are a mystery written in a foreign tongue, a conundrum, an enigma, a puzzle

within  a puzzle.

Had I the time

to spy all my days

as you luxuriate with knees

drawn up in quiet


lost in a world of someone’s else’s


I would count myself a very

lucky man.

by Philip Wardlow 2014

Rest in Peace Harold Ramis….Or Shake up the Afterlife like you did this one.


List of Movies Harold Ramis, wrote or helped write, acted in, or directed  (or all three at once) –

Animal House


Heavy Metal (voice acting)


Ghostbusters I, II

National Lampoons Vacation


Groundhog Day



Love Affair

High Fidelity

Orange County

The Last Kiss

Back to School

Analyze This

Analyze That

As Good as it Gets

The Ice Harvest

Club Paradise


Stuart Saves His Family


Knocked Up

Walk Hard: The Dewy Cox Story

Year One

The Books & Authors that shaped my writing…


I went to my library of books and pulled all the ones out that I thought shaped me as a writer in general. These are ones by certain authors, which I am sure, my subconcious mind draws upon when I write my own stories and poems.

The authors range from Ray Bradbury, Robert E. Howard, Julian May, Anne Rice, Magaret Weis and Tracy Hickman, Isaac Asimov, Douglas Adams, Stephen King, Fritz Leiber, David Eddings, Robert Jordan, J.K. Rowling, J.D. Salinger, Brandon Sanderson,Harry Harrison, Ayn Rand, Fred Saberhagen.

I also snuck in a picture of a Comic book as well because I have been reading those ever since I can remember, so how can they not  have shaped how I write on a daily basis?

Let me know what books and authors have shaped you as a writer or even if you are reader of many books in general.

I have read much Fantasy ranging from low to high, Conan The Barbarian anyone?   And ‘The Wheel of Time’ – an  EPIC Series by Robert Jordan. Oh, and don’t get me started on the wonderful series of J.K. Rowling’s – Harry Potter.  And there are so many more fantasy writers that drive  me.

How about the beautiful poignant literary novels such as  Ayn Rand’s – “The Fountainhead” ,  “Life of Pi” by Yann Martel, J.D. Salinger’s – “Catcher in the Rye”,  or  Cervante’s –  “Don Quixote”

Are you a science fiction fan?  How about  Isaac Asimov’s – “Foundation Series”,  L. Ron. Hubbard’s – “Battlefield Earth”, or  Harry Harrison’s – “Stainless Steel Rat”.

Fancy some Horror?….  Stephen King, Anne Rice (even Ray Bradbury dabbled in it a little) ?

And lastly Comics…..Spiderman, X-men, Daredevil, Avengers, Hulk, X-force,Thor, Teen Titans, Superman, Batman, Wonder Woman, Flash, and the list goes on…:)

I am discovering new ones as I speak. To me that’s the most  fun part of reading…finding that new favorite author.

What do you read…and what are your favorite stories?

Sexism in Writing and how we can all learn from an 8yr girl

I recently have been reading various articles on sexism in the literary world. I have been learning alot and may, at a later date in another post, write my own opinion on the subject matter when I have fully researched it. I mainly began my research in to this subject matter so I would NOT become a sexist writer.

I wanted to avoid the many pitfalls I see in the writing world in the way they treat the women characters in a story. In my research, I also found we do the male character in the story a disservice as well at times.  In our sexism, we consciously or unconsciously pigeonhole women and men in stereotypical roles because we have found it to be acceptable and a “given” in our minds in how that sex should act according to the “normal laws” of societal convention. I won’t even tell you what we do to women writers in how unfairly they are treated until I have all my ducks and facts in  a row. But I will tell you this, I am a male writer and I already have an advantage over them just for that reason alone sad to say.

Here  is an article originally  featured on the website  . The original story was written on Oct 3rd, 2013 on there website and can be found HERE

I think you will find this story interesting. I am also sure it is just the tip of the ice-burg for what goes on in the literary world at large. I would love to hear your opinions on the article after you have finished reading it.


Constance Cooper’s daughter, KC, is no shrinking violet. In fact, Cooper describes her 8-year-old as articulate, passionate and a great reader, qualities parents hope their children exhibit as they grow.

So it was not a huge surprise to Cooper when, this past summer, KC became upset after an ordinary trip to their local bookstore, Half Price Books, in Berkeley, Calif.

“We were browsing around in the bookstore, and suddenly I heard my daughter calling out, ‘Mama! You have to look at this!’” recalls Cooper. “So, of course, I thought she’d found something she wanted to buy, but it was completely the opposite. She was looking at two books that had made her so enraged she was actually in tears.”

The books, titled “How To Survive (Almost) Anything,” included a boy version and a girl version. In the boy version, the chapters covered topics such as “How to Survive a Shark Attack,” “How to Survive in a Desert,” and “How to Survive Whitewater Rapids.”

The girl version addressed such issues as “How to Survive a BFF Fight,” “How to Survive a Fashion Disaster,” and “How to Survive a Breakout.”

“The one that got to my daughter the most was ‘How to Survive a Camping Trip’ because she loves camping,” Cooper said. “It was sad to read ‘camping may not always be a girl’s top choice of activity, but here’s how to make the best of a bad situation and survive in style.’ The picture had a girl dreaming about lounging on a beach. Later it said, ‘Besides, fresh air is excellent for the skin, and a brisk walk is a marvelous workout.’”

KC was so upset at the sexist nature of the books that a bookstore employee took notice and asked her what was wrong.

“After looking through the books, the employee agreed they were offensive and pulled them from the shelves! She said if she had seen them first they wouldn’t have been there to begin with. She was great because she took action and validated my daughter’s feelings.”

Joshua Lynn, a manager at Half Price Books, has clarified to TODAY Moms that the books were not removed from the store, but rather were moved to a “less prominent area of the children’s section.”

“While we certainly understand why the books upset her and commend the girl for speaking out against stereotypical portrayals of gender roles in books, I would like to stress that we are strong advocates of First Amendment rights and do not advocate censorship or removal of “objectionable” books from circulation,” Lynn said.

Cooper, a science fiction writer, is proud of her daughter for drawing attention to the books, and took this experience as a lesson learned for both KC and herself.

“I saw this as an opportunity to explain to my daughter that it’s not always girls who are hurt by sexism, but boys too. For instance, the boys’ version of the book implies that all boys do is fight and deal with disasters. In reality they might actually benefit from a lot of the advice in the girls’ book, like ‘How to Survive Shyness’ or ‘How to be a Brilliant Babysitter’.”

And what would have normally been a simple ir­­ritation to Cooper became a much more meaningful reminder thanks to her daughter’s persistence.

“If I’d seen those books on my own, I probably would have just sh­aken my head and gone away without saying anything and felt angry when I thought about it later. As adults we see so much of that sort of thing, and we get worn down. I hope my daughter will continue to think critically about the messages she’s given in our culture and speak out when she thinks something is not right.”

Of course not everyone agreed.

Cooper said she posted the experience on her writing website,, and submitted the link to boingboing, one of her favorite blogs, “because I knew from reading it that the editors are concerned about issues of gender and culture and also how to raise kids to think critically.”

“Unfortunately it triggered a somewhat nasty flurry of comments about censorship, which I feel really distracted from the point of the post,” Cooper said.

Advice to Poets – Three Quick Rules by Philip Wardlow


I don’t mean to offend. But a lot of the poetry  out there sucks. I can freely admit that some of mine sucks lemon peels.

I can’t say I’m qualified to give advice to poets or would be poets. I have been writing poetry since I was in high school and have taken many creative writing and English courses regarding the subject. Still,  I think there are a lot better poets out in there in the word than me past and present. I am not going to get technical on you. But just give you three quick down and dirty lessons on the subject matter. From there  you can grow I believe to be a better poet.

I just know what I like to read as a poet and what I like to write as a poet. To me, when reading a poem, the subject matter is less important than how it is actually handled by the person writing it. You can take a great concept you wish to write a poem about;   be it love,  life, an adventure, or erotica and fuck it up quite easily.

I have read many blogs and I have read some very good poetry. On the flipside I have read some VERY bad poetry.  In those instances  I do not push the LIKE button or comment on the poem unless they wish a serious critique.


Rule #1 –

Example:  I see the world flying from me , never to return,  why must I be denied., why oh why, it’s so unfair, this world that I live in.   I feel down and out. Woe is me oh woe is me.   I’m in such pain why oh why…blah blah blah

The biggest problem with BAD poetry  is that the Poem just rambles on and on with no clear resolution at the end.  Give me something I can grab on to. Some epiphany you learned, a realization of life, a CLEVER way of stating the obvious… and wrap it up…Don’t take 20 Lines to say the  same thing you could have said in 10 lines.

So Rule #1  Don’t  Ramble on and on with no Point and repeat the same thing twice.


Rule#2 –

Example:  The night is cold,  and I feel very bold.   I love you so much and I miss your touch 

Secondly unless your a fifth grader and newly starting out in writing poetry…don’t rhyme just to rhyme. It makes me insane to read poetry where I can predict the words in every other next line. It’s like slow water torture for me. Basically do it when its appropriate.  When in doubt if you think it’s too much then be rest assured it probably is. And have you ever heard of alliteration and all the other forms of poetry writing,  as an alternate to the normal rhyme scheme? If not look them up. Get Educated,

 So Rule#2 Don’t Rhyme so damn much


 Rule #3 –

 Example:  She/he  hurt me in that way.  Because I did that thing. And  I hurt.   The  pedantic ethereal winds kissed my cheek and I let out long sigh  as the rockslide engulfed my being that encapsulated you. (wtf!)

And lastly  I hate when you give me your direct feelings in vague ways or you explain an experience in a much too abstract or technical way.  both ways hide what you are really trying to get across and feel inside that head of yours. Sure YOU may be getting it out of YOUR system..but it  does nothing for ME the reader of your poem. So don’t be lazy and don’t hit us with super symbolism or the dictionary  of words hardly ever used by 90% of the English speaking community.

Rule #3 –  Don’t keep what you really wish to say a secret with vague or abstract writing. Still be creative but don’t hide behind the words.


OKAY DONE with my lesson…now go out and play.

Uncurling Brightness – A Poem


Uncurling Brightness –

She may call herself invisible.

But I see her.

Melancholy eyes with a reflective inquisitive smile

for those that deserve it.

Hands that wish to touch,

and be touched.

Lips that wish to kiss

and be cherished.

Silent resolve,

and practiced patience

bundled in a cocoon

of courage that never

leaves any doubt.

Only a fool would fail to love


Only a fool would see

her as a fading spiral,

while I only see

an uncurling brightness.

by Philip Wardlow 2014